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During this journey to self discovery and having a business that truly supports me and the lifestyle that I want to create, I have found that it is essential to put all of you in your business. If you truly want to transform your life through your business and use it as a tool to get what you want then you need to actually embrace all of you.
Over the past several years I have worked lots of clients, who, like I once was, and truth be told, sometimes still am, are afraid of feeling these “negative” thoughts. At this point in the game, I think we all realize that as Mike Dooley simply said “thoughts become things, choose the good ones” and while that is absolutely true, I feel like it has caused many of us to try and stuff down these “negative” thoughts.
I know for myself, once I got this concept of thoughts become things, I was terrified to actually feel anything that I did not want. If I had a feeling come up that was “negative” such as fear, from doing something I have never done before, there was a big part of me that was actually scared to embrace the fear, to feel it, because if I did, it would attract another “negative” thought, after all, that’s how it works, right? And yes, that is how it works.
However, what I have discovered to be true for me and the many clients that I work with is that that fear of not wanting to feel that “negative” thought, or feeling actually keeps us creating more of what we do not want. You see, when you do not express the emotion, and the thought for what it is, you are actually creating it without realizing that you are, it is happening in the shadow.
The problem with it happening in the shadow is that you are powerless to change it, because you took it out of your awareness, and it has not yet been fully felt or expressed, so your subconscious is actually going out and expressing that thought in your energy field and creating from the place of fear, or doubt, or whatever emotion you did not feel because you tried to stuff it down, and you get more of what you don’t want and you can’t figure out why that is happening.
So, instead of stuffing down those feelings and trying to push away those “negative” thoughts, feel them, embrace them, allow them to pass through your bodies, emotional, physical, mental, energetic, allow yourself to feel it and be done with it. I know, I tried for many years to try and push it away, the fear, the worry, the doubt, thinking, one day when I make it I won’t have to deal with this anymore.
Then, I would get sideswiped by the feeling, the thought, the circumstance that my subconscious created that I was not aware of and bam the cycle would repeat again. News flash – the fear, worry, doubt never goes away, as one my mentors once told me, new level, new devil. It’s always there, you just learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable, but being under the false illusion that it will go away, that doesn’t serve you, because we are human, we live in duality, there will always be these “negative” emotions, the trick so to be in control of the emotions instead of them being in control of you. Every day, every moment you have a choice to feel what you want, but you can’t feel what you want by ignoring what you are feeling, instead embrace it, use it, find your power in it and create what you want despite it.
I would love to hear your thoughts on feeling the “negative” emotions, please post in the comments below or on our Facebook page.
If you’d like some help uncovering some of the blocks that are keeping you stuck in a reality you don’t want, go here to get started, I would love to see how I can support you in “freeing your fears, and powering your potential™”
P.S. I am trying out this new tool, Periscope, have you checked it out yet? I have been watching for the last few weeks and today is the day I try my first broadcast, I would love for you to join me, I will talking about this idea of “negative” emotions. Follow me on Periscope @KimBeckers If you don’t already have periscope visit https://www.periscope.tv/ and you can download it for your iphone or android, then join me live today at 12noon CST, check your time zone here, and I will answer your questions live! “see” you then!
But, where are you making those choices from? From fear or love?
When we make a choice from fear or worry or doubt, or obligation or any other lower energy we are creating from that same place. You see, everything is energy, so, if everything is energy, if we are making a choice from this lower energy, it cannot exist in the same place as the highest energy, which of course is love.
Think about it, when was the last time you did something (ie. made a choice out of obligation) to do something, how did it end? Likely, you ended up resentful and frustrated instead of happy and joyful.
Now, what happens when you make a choice in a different energy, of love? What did that create? More love and joy is my guess, and the more choices you make from this energy the more of it you will receive.
Many times I speak to entrepreneurs who are working really, really hard in their business, and they are struggling, when we look at the choices that they are making to market their business, they are doing things out of obligation or because they are supposed to, or because that’s what someone else told them to do! And then they wonder why they are struggling, and are frustrated, and not getting the results they really want.
No judgment here, I used to do this too, and sometimes still do. It’s easy to get caught up in bright shiny object syndrome, to look to see what others are doing to have success, and try to replicate it for ourselves, but if you want to truly create a business on purpose and in alignment with you, you gotta stop doing that because the truth is you will never be happy. And, if you make choices and take actions in your business or your life from obligation or fear or whatever lower energy you want to substitute you will end with more of the same.
So, look within yourself, honor yourself, and your own path, and choose love, choose you.
And. if you’d like some help navigating this on your own, reach out to me here, and check out my new live workshop, where I am going to show you how to tune into your own intuition and do your own intuitive marketing so that you too can create on purpose and in alignment with you.
People, especially coaches talk about this all the time, I know I certainly do with my clients, it’s super important. In fact, I think it is one of the most important parts of growing a business that you love that is in alignment with who you are and what you really desire, I know that has been the case for me.
As an analytical person with 3 degrees and a handful of certifications it can be easy to get caught up in the do more mentality. ie. Doing whatever it takes to grow the business that you want, but what happens when you get caught up in “doing” whatever it takes and you lose sight of “being” you, of “being” the person you want to be, of having the lifestyle that you crave?
90%+ of my business success now I can attribute to who I am being instead of what I am doing, truth be told, you can mess up most of what you are “supposed” to be doing as long as you got this “being” part down pat.
When you are in doing mode you can lose that “being” and end up being the person who is committed to doing whatever it takes instead of allowing yourself to be who you are and having the things you desire.
I wrote about this in a recent article, which you can read here. What I really wanted to talk to you about today, is how you can “be” more of you and still create the business that you desire and manifest those material things.
I have noticed a trend this week already with a number of private and group clients who are needing some help with “being” who they need to be in order to create and manifest what they really desire from a place of freedom and liberation instead of doing more.
I have discovered over the last several years from being the person who was doing whatever it takes to now putting restrictions on whatever it takes, that my business and my life is happier and healthier and there are a number of things that you can do in order to do more “being” instead of doing.
Today I wanted to invite you to getting some help from yours truly (if you want to take this further) and give you some practical tips you can implement right away on “being” more and doing less.
1 – Decide, yep, I know it seems simple and it is, but it’s always the first step, 1st you have to decide that you are no longer willing to do whatever and moving forward you are going to “be” the 6 figure business owner, or the 7 figure business owner, or _____ (fill in the blank of what you really desire) draw a line in the sand right now and decide you are no longer willing to not have what you want any longer and you are committed and willing to do things differently!
2 – Define what you really want and desire to have in your life and business instead in great detail, you need to have a vision of what you really want instead, not I don’t want what I have now but real clarity on what you truly desire.
3 – Now ask yourself, who do you need to “be” in order to be this person? What beliefs do you need to adapt? Write those new empowered beliefs and create a daily mindset ritual that allows you to start to reprogram your mindset. (this is a big part of the work that I do with clients, the truth is the business stuff is easy once you know who you need to be in order to have the things you truly desire, if you feel like you need some help, please feel free to contact me here :-))
4 – Accept the shadow side (you know the part of you that you are afraid to admit that you have, the part of you that you are giving all your power away to and you keep manifesting the things you do not want unconsciously and learn to trust yourself again. (again, this is something that can be tricky to navigate and a big part of the work I help my clients with, if you feel like you need some help, please feel free to contact me here :-))
5 – Embrace the opportunities that have now become available from shifting your doing to being and take inspired action, this is the fastest way to build a business and life that you truly love.
So there you have it, 5 actionable steps to do more “being” and less “doing” in your biz!
I am no longer willing to do whatever it takes, I now define whatever it takes, as in, I am now willing to have a $500k business while working only when my kiddos are in school because I am not willing to create a repeat of my old business, of doing whatever it takes to have the business I want, traveling too much, working crazy hours, not doing the work I love, etc.
Are you ready to claim what you would like to create and manifest on your own terms by doing more “being” and less “doing”?
I’d love to help you to embrace “being” more of you and creating from the place of “being” rather than “doing”. I have a number of short and long term programs privately and in a group that help you to “be” more of you and create from that place. Contact me here to get started!
Here’s to being!
I have not shared this outside a small group of clients and a few stages but I really felt quiet inspired to share this with you all today, for anyone who feels like they are struggling in their business and they are not creating the results that they truly desire.
Almost 3 years ago, I was struggling big time in my biz, and I shared parts of that with you, but I wanted to share the raw unedited version so that you can see that you can do anything, and you can change any circumstance on a dime.
Rewind almost 3 years ago now, I was working 70+ hours a week and barely making enough money to get by, my husband had low paying job working nights at the school (after being unemployed on and off for the past 2+ years due to the economy) and he worked at the fire dept on the weekends. We had two small kids (4 and just barely 1 at the time). It was really hard to make ends meet, we would supplement with food stamps and would scrape by barley each month. I wanted so badly for my business to work so that we could be free, so that we could be a family. (It really sucked to work around the clock with small kids, and have a husband who worked nights, I felt like I was all alone raising my kids while I tried to work , for way too little).
I worked my butt off day and night and finally decided to listen to the calling to hire a high end coach to help me. Of course, I did not have the money to make the investment, after all, hubby had been unemployed on and off for almost 2+ years and we had already ripped through our savings accounts, retirement accounts, 401K’s, but I also knew I did not have a choice, I had tried for years to figure this out but was not making any headway.
It took me a few days to contact the coach that came into my awareness because although I knew in my bones he was the person who could help me, I also had a client who worked with him and so I already had a good idea of what the investment was too.
After a few days I finally gave in and contacted the coach, the next day I was on the phone with one of his coaches having a sales call. I explain to her the issue, she says, yes, for sure this is something he can help you with, and would you like to get started? I said, sure, what is the investment, 6 months, $50k with a $20k deposit. Well, needless to say, my draw dropped and I immediately said, I don’t have the money, blah, blah, blah.
And she said, yes, you do, you just can’t see it is because you have not decided that you want to do this, you are telling yourself, when I have the money I will do it. (well if I had the money you would not need to do it, I thought)! duh! I just told you that.
Fast forward a few moments, and she said, decide that you really want it and the money will appear, sure enough, I made the decision and bam, I got the awareness of how to do it, now did I want to do this? no I did not? (and sorry but I am not going to share with you what I did, because the truth is, it will not be same for you as it was for me, and that would be a disservice to you because you will likely not see how you have access to the same resources that I did in the moment.
Okay, so fast forward, a week later I have the entire $20k deposit and schedule an intensive to meet my coach in Baltimore. I fly into Baltimore and during this day together, I discovered that what was holding me back in my business, had nothing to do with what I did or did not know, I am smart, savvy, and I have been around business my entire life (heck I was a bookkeeper before I could drive a car), I had certifications, degrees and trainings up the ying yang and still couldn’t figure it out. (It had nothing to do with my business, now that may or may not be the case for you in your business and truth be told, I no longer have the same business I did those almost 3 years ago because the business was not right for me but that is a story for another day)
What I uncovered was that my business was stuck and broken because I was stuck and broken. I was in a toxic life threatening environment and my kids and husband was in danger, and I didn’t even know it because I kept covering it up, pretending that I was okay, I was in total survival mode. I call this survival mindset ™ and it was killing my soul and my business.
Survival mindset (™) stops you from being able to see past what is right in front of you, you try to just get by, you are constantly waiting for the bottom to drop out. You pretend that everything is okay, that you are okay, that your life or business or whatever it is is okay, that you are just fine. But on the inside your soul is dying a slow death, it is suffocating, but you are too scared to look into the depths of your soul to find the answer. But you can use this, you can harness this power, you can get to the other side. There is a way out.
Once I received this awareness, and stopped living in denial (Yes, I did need my coaches help to see what the “real” problem was” because it usually appears to us as something different and what I have learned over the years is that we cannot fix a problem from the same thinking that created the problem. I decided right then, right there in that moment, that my life, my kids life, my husband’s life, my business was what matter, ultimately I decided for me, I mattered. After all, you can’t really take care of anyone else if you can’t take care of yourself.
It did not matter, I had no idea how, but I knew I had to stop the cycle of survival mindset ™ of just getting by, I knew I needed to escape this situation, and change the course of my life and I was willing to do whatever it took because I was fighting for me. It was time to stand up for me. So, I fly home from my day with my coach and shared this new awareness with my husband what was stopping me in my business from making the money I truly desired. I was so busy trying to be “okay” and pretending that I could not see what was right in front of me, my survival instincts were in high gear, but the problem is that as you get older the same survival mindset that served you as a child no longer serves you as an adult.
I fly home that evening from Baltimore back to NY and told my hubby what we needed to do in order to fix my business. We loaded as much of our belongings into our minivan and jumped off the cliff, no safety net, no plan, we dove in head first, because I knew I was no longer willing to stay where I was anymore. ( I am by no means suggesting you have to do something nearly as drastic in order to get the result you are looking for btw).
And yes, my husband thought I was crazy, but my confidence and conviction allowed him to believe in me and we set out on the journey from NY to TX (it was the only other place we had considered living + it was far away and warm and it was a starting place) and we drove in the car with my two small kids with $500 bucks and dream, we had no place to live, knew no one, had no job lined up, heck we didn’t even know how what we were going to do once we ran out of money (which btw happens pretty quick when you are driving 2000+ miles across the country and only have $500).
And guess what, every step of the way, the path was revealed, all I needed to do was take the first step and the next one appeared. I learned how to actually have a sales conversation instead of solving everyone’s problem on a discovery call). I learned how to have faith and focus on my desires and what I wanted more then the circumstances that were in front me. I learned how to get in front of potential clients, to package my services and offerings to support me and my clients.
Were there times that I got off track and missed the steps, you bet there was, there were times when we had to sleep in the car, and the kids ate but we didn’t.
Fast forward 30 days into the plunge, I created my first of many five figure months, we found an awesome apartment to live in, hubby went back to NY to gather some of our belongings and within 3 months of taking the plunge I had created 6+ figures in sales.
We were crazy? Maybe, but I can tell you this, you always get what you need when you need it, no matter what, and it’s not what you want, but it is what you need. And once you learn how to meet your needs (I would not have learned how to do sales if I was sleeping in a cozy bed eating a fancy dinner) can you do that, perhaps, but that was not my path.
I had to dive into the abyss and into the darkness of the unknown and search the depths of my soul for strength and power. And coming out on the other side of this almost 3 years later, I can tell you that I would not have the business or life that I now have had I not made that decision to leave the way I did.
Obviously I left out many details, it is not about the details in this instance, the point is that you have the power within in you to create the life you really want, but you first have to decide that you are worth fighting for. That you will no longer tolerate the BS you tell yourself every day and remain stuck.
Can you do this on your own? perhaps, and if you’d like some support, feel free to reach out.
Here are some steps you can right now to start living the life you want to live.
- draw a line in the sand and decide that you will no longer tolerate living a life you do not desire or not having the business you do not desire.
- write down all the habits that stop you from having the biz and life you desire
- write down all the beliefs that are stopping you from having the biz and life you desire
- write out what you want your biz and life to look like
- now ask yourself, who do I need to be in order to have this life and biz? what beliefs do I need to adapt in order to be this person? what decisions do I need to make if I was this person?
- get into action on what you hear, your heart knows the way, your desires are gifts from God/The Universe/Source, to help you become more of who you are.
- visualize and focus on what you truly desire every day, not your current circumstances
- control your energy by getting in touch with your emotions and not allowing your emotions to control you.
Life is a journey, not a destination, it’s about the person you become in the process, money is great, and I love money, money affords us many choices and many possibilities, I believe we should all have and do have access to an unlimited supply of money, we just need to be who we truly are in order to tap into it. the only thing we take with us into the next life is who we become.
I hope this inspires you to look within and seek your own answers, and move forward to creating a biz and life you truly desire.
If you would like some help creating your biz + life on purpose, please feel free to contact me here.